remember bert hellinger which i blogged long long time ago?
before i forget what he said, its better that i blog it first..
the phrase, funny in a way, memorable in a way, and clear in away..

the philosophy of love, i assumed..
" one day, when your partner hurt you by forgetting your birthday,
because you love her/him so much, so you decided to love her/him more by hurting her/him more..
and because your partner love you so much, so she/he decided to hurt you more..
this continues to go on, untill one of the partner lose faith and ran away..

so, if you wanna maintain the love,
when your partner hurt you,
because you love her/him so much, you hurt her/him a little less..
and your partner will hurt you a little less than how you hurt her/him
and then..
the love, is still there.. "

如果你的伴侶 不小心地 傷害了你
他可能忘了你的生日 你們的紀念日
於是 因爲你愛他 所以你決定傷害他 比他傷害你更多
然後 你的伴侶 也因爲愛你 所以無法去體諒你
所以他開始傷害你 比你傷害他更多
於是 這種因果循環 會這樣持續下去
直到 某一方無法承受那種痛苦 然後結束

所以 爲了要延續那份愛 你 該怎樣做呢？
儅你的伴侶傷害你時 你可以傷害他 比他傷害你的 少一點
然後 你的伴侶 也會因爲你的體諒
所以 他也傷害你 比你傷害他的 再少一點
直到 你們停止傷害 而更愛對方